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“Nobody is making you feel what you are feeling. Your reactions are caused by how you interpret any situation. This is so important because it means that you ultimately become your own resource of emotional freedom and truth.”

That’s from Adya.

The universe seems to be trying to help me out of my current dramas.  DSis is doing her preaching from the holy mount act again.   I’m so utterly sick of the pretention that all her time with the parents were driven by parents’s needs only.   All the time I’ve spent in the same vicinity, I’ve seen the parents spin trying to meet her family’s needs and little the other way around.  Even when I try to put my thoughts on this down in words,  I can feel the words get lost and the body go into clench mode.  The second irritant is my new manager.  Dear God, if I hear you’ve got to know what’s going on one more time, I will scream.  I don’t want to already write him off as an ass, I’m only 5 weeks into this job, but it’s getting hard.  He wants someone to do exactly as he says, but what he says morphs.  He won’t put anything down in writing.  I’m so very sick of being told what to do.  I’m 50 (almost).  So mad at you, Universe, that I can’t tell this dick to eff off.  His feedback makes me feel incompetent and I feel he’s undermining my authority in front of my team and the larger group.  So this note from Adya helps bring in a little bit of daylight between action and reaction. and for that – thanks!

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And when you do, please thank Carolyn Hax from WP

If you want to streamline some more mental and emotional clutter, then make a conscious decision not to judge anyone — not even yourself — for asking, not asking, giving or not giving.

Because judging is work. It asks you to get informed (if you’re doing it right), to keep things in mind and balance competing interests, to care about things not your business, to take sides for or against people you know, to invest yourself in an outcome and to declare yourself superior for knowing better than the person you’re judging.

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