Archive for December, 2009

www.flylady.net.  Guided to this site by Gretchen Rubin.  I spent the first week scoffing, who can clean the sink?  Must be for SAH.  People not as busy as I am.  Until I read what FLYing meant.  Finally loving yourself.  Now that was something I couldn’t dismiss.  And so after a few more this can’t be for me whines, I went to work on the sink.  Couldn’t do the bleach thing,  the water saver feature in my psyche can’t be turned off, I got into FLYing.  Then overdid it and crashed, now picking up stray pieces to put together again.

This amazing woman helps thousands every single day, from her thoughtful and simple messages to her website with just enough information that you don’t get overwhelmed.  The main message is Love, Love to your self, your family, your community.  And it is true, you get love when you show love.  Gentle exhortations to bless others with your clutter.  I’ve managed to donate things I was sitting on in the hopes of using some mythical day.  Endlessly kind.  And all for free.  Imagine the joy of being able to touch so many lives positively and perhaps like Usha says, since it is a service to her fellow people, the energy to carry on doesn’t diminish.

The FlyLady icon is so cutesy and the writing is liberally sprinkled with lol and other cuteisms.  I recall being aghast when she said she was reading “Debbie Macomber”!!!  How can I take advice from a person who reads Debbie Macomber?!  But you know what, why am I even getting into judging her choice of reading? If I’m blessed with a bit of her spirit and love, the multiplying effect will be stupendous.   I’ve started using the word Bless and Love more often in my thoughts.  Thank you, FlyLady!!  I do love you and am so happy I crossed your orbit!!


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Which wolf will you feed?

Via Leo Babauta at ZenHabits.net to Corbett Barr at FreePursuits.com comes this tale:

A Cherokee woman was teaching her grandchildren about life. She said, “A battle is raging inside me. It is a terrible fight between two wolves. One wolf represents fear, anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority and ego. The other stands for joy, peace, love, hope, sharing, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, friendship, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”

The old woman looked at the children with a firm stare. “This same fight is going on inside you, and inside every other person, too.”

The children thought about it for a minute, and then one child asked his grandmother, “which wolf will win?”

The grandmother replied: “The one you feed.” 

I’ve fed the former wolf for so long, I’m amazed wolf#2 is still alive.  But I can feel him slowly stirring to life.  I hope and pray Grace will help me feed Wolf#2 so that he can withstand the mauling wolf#1 is still capable of delivering.

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Finally, after years of wanting to go, I took DD and a friend of hers to the NutCracker by Ballet San Jose.  We had the cheap seats in the auditorium and how!  The penultimate row.  Next time get the last row, at least you can stand up to see.  I think some of the power of the piece was lost because of where we were, but cheap seats = $30 per head!!  And then fees of $13.  And to think I was complaining about MOT!!  The place was huge, at least 700 seats easily and was almost full.  They do it every year for days on end and it’s still full.  Go figure!

Let me see what I remember most in the routines:

* The girls moving around en pointe with tbe dolls – so serene and gliding
* The snowflakes, the set was most beautiful.
* The prince and Maria right after he’s released from the spell, beautiful dress, Maria!
* the waltz – I loved the way the women were lifted and placed.  I kept expecting to hear a thud, but it was gorgeously weightless looking.
* They do some eye trickery there – Maria sometimes looks in size like a little girl.
* Didn’t care in the end for the man and women in white who kept dancing for a lot bit longer.  They made it almost circuslike – tada! tada!

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Vibrant lifers

I was talking to Smt JV a few weeks ago.  She was kind enough to make some time for me past 9 pm.  One part of the conversation went thus:

JV:  What’s the point of surrounding yourself with a lot of people and going to each other’s place for dinner?
Me : But mami, you feel like you are a part of a community when you hang out with other people
JV : But that’s a false feeling.  Every such meeting comes with its own obligation and then you’ll have to return the favour, you don’t particularly like being there, causes problems with your husband.  Instead of fragmenting yourself, live a vibrant life!

It got me thinking about the people I’ve come to know of  this year who I believe fit the vibrant life motto.

Smt Jayashree Varadarajan : She’s a guiding light.  Every day is a demonstration of what it means to live vibrantly.  I’m so envious of her adult students!!

Gretchen Rubin : DH pointed me in her direction.  The stunning thing is, I only log on to her blog once in a while.  But she’s been the source of the rest of the list below, hence she’s at the top of the lifer list!  What a marvelous concept – the Happiness Project!  Her generosity amazes me.  I think I’m connected to almost everyone else in the vibrant lifer list via her blog.

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Who knew getting a decent domain name would be so difficult?!  I knew I didn’t want my username as domain name, what else did I try:

* imemyself – taken!
* memyselfandI – taken!
* myroad / variations on this theme – all gone!
* searching / variations on this theme – same here!
* then I went to my favorite mantra – a salaam to Kathleen Norris – staunchpersistence – available, but where it works as a motivator, I don’t think it’s so hot as a domain name.  Makes me quail.

I’ve now sunk about an hour into this, most of these blogs have only a post or two and are years old!  Am thinking WordPress has got some cleanup to do!!

* myworld/universe – gone too.  Even hello.wordpress.com is taken!
And then voila – ysworld surfaces.  I love it!  Why?

* My first name starts with Y – so I feel some ownership of it, it’s my world.
* Wise World – the world’s wisdom.  All ready and available for me to tap into if I can pause to listen.
* The Universe as my Guru – still on my Guru search, I know my Guru will come, but the universe is a wonderful proxy.

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